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Add a Spoonful of “Sugar”
2011-06-14 16:10:00
We have all been disciplined or corrected at some time in our lives (some more than others). The confrontation might have come from parents, spouses, kids, work, the Highway Patrol, or even the D.O.T. (Department of Transportation). Whenever we experience correction, we would all prefer the delivery to be done in a gentle way. Rude, harsh or cruel words only make the situation worse and have the potential to completely ruin our day. Generally speaking, most of us don’t even like to do the confronting either. But when it becomes necessary, do so with gentleness. Remember that saying “Just a spoonful of sugar makes the medicine go down.” Comment here.
For more information, check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Want to help? You can help us get the word out about www.driverswellness.com by forwarding a link of this blog to your trucker friends and family.
Tags: conflict,archive,blog
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Don't Stab People in the Back
2011-05-17 14:07:00
How often do you use the word slander? I’m guessing not very often. Even though we don’t use it often, we still have a tendency to do it to others. Slander happens when we say false or malicious things about someone in order to hurt their reputation, often behind their backs. It shouldn't have any room in our companies and certainly no room in our lives. It will only make matters worse and lead to more trouble. As my dad used to say, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." Comment here.
For more information, check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Want to help? You can help us get the word out about www.driverswellness.com by forwarding a link of this blog to your trucker friends and family.
Tags: conflict,archive,blog
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I’ve Got a Peaceful, Easy Feelin’
2011-01-14 12:17:00
The opposite of conflict is peace. But peace isn’t merely the absence of conflict. Rather, it’s having harmony and goodwill in all of our relationships. Just because you’re not fighting with someone doesn’t mean you’re really at peace with them. And just because you’re not out to get revenge against the one who’s hurt you doesn’t mean there’s real harmony in your relationship either. Real peace comes from doing positive things towards them. It’s a result of taking the high road when they’ve injured you. And on that road, we “go the extra mile.” That brings peace. Comment here.
For more information, check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Want to help? You can help us get the word out about www.driverswellness.com by forwarding a link of this blog to your trucker friends and family.
Tags: conflict,archive,blog
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The Power of Words
2011-01-04 07:54:00
In the midst of a conflict, we need to be very careful of what we say. Because our words can either be inflammatory or conciliatory, wounding or healing. Impulsive words said without thinking can injure beyond our intention and damage beyond our control. And once they’re spoken, they can never be taken back. Once they leave our mouths, words can never be retrieved. Next time you’re in a conflict, do whatever you have to in order to keep from saying something you’ll be sorry for later. Try these suggestions: Count to ten before you speak, say the second thing that comes to your mind and if you can’t say anything nice…Comment here.
For more information, check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Want to help? You can help us get the word out about www.driverswellness.com by forwarding a link of this blog to your trucker friends and family.
Tags: conflict,archive,blog
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Immediate Action
2010-12-01 14:06:00
There’s nothing worse than dragging a conflict out. It wears on our emotions. It consumes our thoughts. It gnaws at our stomach. It robs us of sleep. In the meantime, we rehearse what happened, replaying it in our mind’s eye time and time again. We fantasize about what we’d say if we got the chance to defend ourselves or justify our actions. We mentally practice rebuking the person we’re in conflict with so that we win the argument. But all of it only drags the solution out even longer, taking things to an absurd level. How can all this be avoided? Deal with it ASAP. Don’t wait. Make that call. As soon as you’re home, go to them and fix the problem. Quit dragging it out. Your nerves will thank you. Comment here.
For more information, check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Want to help? You can help us get the word out about www.driverswellness.com by forwarding a link of this blog to your trucker friends and family.
Tags: conflict,archive,blog
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Preventive Maintenance
2010-11-30 12:57:00
Most conflicts start over little things. However, small annoyances quickly snowball into big problems if left unchecked. Isn’t that true with our trucks? If we ignore that little grinding noise under the hood, it may end up costing us a lot of money to fix and time off the road in the end. It’s even truer in our relationships. Many conflicts can be avoided. Relationships, just like our trucks, need a little preventive maintenance. Are there acts of patience, kindness or unselfishness that you can do today to help prevent conflicts from starting in the first place? Comment here.
For more information, check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Want to help? You can help us get the word out about www.driverswellness.com by forwarding a link of this blog to your trucker friends and family.
Tags: conflict,archive,blog
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Sweeping Conflict Under The Rug
2010-11-29 08:32:00
Let’s face it. When a conflict arises, it’s easier to do nothing. After all, we’re not home that often. Who wants to deal with conflict during the few hours that we are home? Plus, conflict gets complicated, it’s emotional, it requires communication and it takes too much work to fix it. How tempting it is to just ignore it and sweep it under the rug? Leave it alone, and maybe it’ll go away, right? Would you do that if you had an infection? Of course not! It’d only spread and get worse if you did. So ask yourself: in the long run, is avoiding conflict really easier? Nope. So, shake the rug and deal with it. Comment here.
For more information, check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Want to help? You can help us get the word out about www.driverswellness.com by forwarding a link of this blog to your trucker friends and family.
Tags: conflict,archive,blog
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The Value of Compromise
2010-11-23 12:37:00
When two people are in conflict, there are three possible positions to be adopted: Person A, Person B or a hybrid of both also called a compromise. Frankly, oftentimes the best answer isn’t A or B. The conflict grows more intense the harder we fight to get the other person to adopt our position. It’s like pouring gasoline on a fire – it makes the fire burn longer. On the other hand, choosing to compromise will help the conflict die down. A lot like pouring water on a fire. So put away your gas can. Stop trying to force the other person to adopt your view. Compromise isn’t a weakness. It’s effective. Comment here.
For more information, check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Want to help? You can help us get the word out about www.driverswellness.com by forwarding a link of this blog to your trucker friends and family.
Tags: conflict,archive,blog
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Let Go of Road Rage
2010-11-22 18:27:00
Most conflicts occur with people we know: a family member, neighbor, friend or co-worker. But the fact that we know the person we’re upset with at least gives us a context in which we can work it out. Conflicts on the road, however, don’t work the same way. We’ll never meet the sports car driving maniac. He’ll remain a stranger. So there won’t be mutual discussion, much less a mutual resolution. Instead, you’ll have to solve the conflict on your own. How do you solve this kind of conflict? By letting it go. No matter what a stranger does to you on the road, let go of your road rage and move on. Comment here.
For more information, check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Want to help? You can help us get the word out about www.driverswellness.com by forwarding a link of this blog to your trucker friends and family.
Tags: conflict,archive,blog
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Conflict is Normal
2010-03-18 08:09:00
If you have friends or family then you will have conflict. It’s normal. The tricky part is how you deal with it. The next time you have an issue with someone, here are some tips that will bring a positive outcome: If it’s bothering you, don’t wait for the other person to bring it up; take the initiative to work through it. Find a good time and place to talk in person. Talk only about the issue; don’t get sidetracked with other past issues. Most importantly, make sure your motive is to clear the air and restore the relationship. Is there someone you need to talk to? Easier said than done? We can help. Comment here.
For more information, check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Want to help? You can help us get the word out about www.driverswellness.com by forwarding a link of this blog to your trucker friends and family.
Tags: conflict,archive,blog
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Sometimes “Spankings” Cannot Be Avoided
2009-12-08 08:56:00
Once, when I was ten or eleven years old I thought I could put an end to being spanked. My mom was probably five feet tall, but she had twelve kids and plenty of spanking experience. Nevertheless, I jerked the stick out of her hand and broke it over my knee. I thought she would be powerless to do anything about it. WRONGGG! And I thought she was angry before! She had a closet full of hangers. She just got another, and gave me the walloping I deserved.
How do you react to life’s spankings? Do you try to control the one who’s doing the “spanking”? Have you ever tried just being quiet and listening to what’s being said first? How about agreeing with the person on the parts they get right? Then, maybe responding with calm respect and apologizing where needed. It just might work out better than the childish behavior I exhibited above. Give it a shot. Comment here.
For more information, check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Want to help? You can help us get the word out about www.driverswellness.com by forwarding a link of this blog to your trucker friends and family.
Tags: conflict,archive,blog
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Add a Spoonful of “Sugar”
2009-08-04 07:26:00
We have all been disciplined or corrected at some time in our lives (some more than others). The confrontation might have come from parents, spouses, kids, work, the Highway Patrol, or even the D.O.T. (Department of Transportation). Whenever we experience correction, we would all prefer the delivery to be done in a gentle way. Rude, harsh or cruel words only make the situation worse and have the potential to completely ruin our day. Generally speaking, most of us don’t even like to do the confronting either. But when it becomes necessary, do so with gentleness. Remember that saying “Just a spoonful of sugar makes the medicine go down.” Comment here.
For more information, check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Want to help? You can help us get the word out about www.driverswellness.com by forwarding a link of this blog to your trucker friends and family.
Tags: conflict,archive,blog
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Don't Stab People in the Back
2009-07-03 13:00:00
How often do you use the word slander? I’m guessing not very often. Even though we don’t use it often, we still have a tendency to do it to others. Slander happens when we say false or malicious things about someone in order to hurt their reputation, often behind their backs. It shouldn't have any room in our companies and certainly no room in our lives. It will only make matters worse and lead to more trouble. As my dad used to say, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." Comment here.
For more information check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Want to help? You can help us get the word out about www.driverswellness.com by forwarding a link of this blog to your trucker friends and family.
Tags: conflict,archive,blog
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I’ve Got A Peaceful, Easy Feelin’
2009-03-12 08:33:00
The opposite of conflict is peace. But peace isn’t merely the absence of conflict. Rather, it’s having harmony and goodwill in all of our relationships. Just because you’re not fighting with someone doesn’t mean you’re really at peace with them. And just because you’re not out to get revenge against the one who’s hurt you doesn’t mean there’s real harmony in your relationship either. Real peace comes from doing positive things toward them. It’s a result of taking the high road when they’ve injured you. And on that road, we “go the extra mile.” That brings peace. Comment here.
For more information on conflict check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Tags: conflict,archive,blog
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The Power of Words
2009-03-02 11:54:00
It the midst of a conflict, we need to be very careful of what we say. Because our words can either be inflammatory or conciliatory. They can be wounding or healing. Impulsive words said without thinking can injure beyond our intention and damage beyond our control. And once they're spoken, they can never be taken back. Once they leave our mouths, they can never be retrieved. Therefore, in a conflict, control what you say. Do whatever you have to in order to keep from saying something you'll be sorry for later. Suggestions? Always say the second thing that comes to your mind. Count to ten before you speak. If you can't say anything nice... Comment here.
For more information on conflict check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Send an e-mail to join-driverwellness@pr4.netatlantic.com to subscribe to this blog for free. These messages are brought to you by Drivers Wellness, an initiative of Transport For Christ. If you would like to give a donation to help us reach drivers, click here.
Tags: blog,archive,conflict
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Immediate Action
2009-02-13 09:02:00
There’s nothing worse than dragging a conflict out. It wears on our emotions. It consumes our thoughts. It gnaws at our stomach. It robs us of sleep. In the meantime, we rehearse what happened, replaying it in our mind’s eye time and time again. We fantasize about what we’d say if we got the chance to defend ourselves or justify our actions. We mentally practice rebuking the person we’re in conflict with so that we win the argument. But all of it only drags the solution out even longer, taking things to an absurd level. How can all this be avoided? Deal with it ASAP. Don’t wait. Make that call. As soon as you’re home, go to them and fix the problem. Quit dragging it out. Your nerves will thank you. Comment here.
For more information on conflict check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Tags: conflict,archive,blog
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Preventive Maintenance
2009-02-12 08:36:00
Most conflicts start over little things. However, small annoyances quickly snowball into big problems if left unchecked. Isn’t that true with our trucks? If we ignore that little grinding noise under the hood, it may end up costing us a lot of money to fix and time off the road in the end. It’s even truer in our relationships. Many conflicts can be avoided. Relationships, just like our trucks, need a little preventive maintenance. Are there acts of patience, kindness or unselfishness that you can do today to help prevent conflicts from starting in the first place? Comment here.
For more information on conflict check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Tags: conflict,archive,blog
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Sweeping Conflict Under the Rug
2009-02-11 14:02:00
Let’s face it. When a conflict arises, it’s easier to do nothing. After all, we’re not home that often. Who wants to deal with conflict during the few hours that we are home? Plus, conflict gets complicated, it’s emotional, it requires communication and it takes too much work to fix it. How tempting it is to just ignore it and sweep it under the rug? Leave it alone, and maybe it’ll go away, right? Would you do that if you had an infection? Of course not! It’d only spread and get worse if you did. So ask yourself: in the long run, is avoiding conflict really easier? Nope. So shake the rug and deal with it. Comment here.
For more information on conflict check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Tags: blog,archive,conflict
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The Value of Compromise
2009-02-10 11:21:00
When two people are in conflict, there are three possible positions to be adopted: Person A, Person B or a hybrid of both also called a compromise. Frankly, oftentimes the best answer isn’t A or B. The conflict grows more intense the harder we fight to get the other person to adopt our position. It’s like pouring gasoline on a fire – it makes the fire burn longer. On the other hand, choosing to compromise will help the conflict die down. A lot like pouring water on a fire. So put away your gas can. Stop trying to force the other person to adopt your view. Compromise isn’t a weakness. It’s effective. Comment here.
For more information on conflict check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Send an e-mail to join-driverwellness@pr4.netatlantic.com to subscribe to this blog for free. These messages are brought to you by Drivers Wellness, an initiative of Transport For Christ. If you would like to give a donation to help us reach drivers, click here.
Tags: conflict,archive,blog
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Let Go of Road Rage
2009-02-09 09:14:00
Most conflicts occur with people we know: a family member, neighbor, friend or co-worker. But the fact that we know the person we’re upset with at least gives us a context in which we can work it out. Conflicts on the road, however, don’t work the same way. We’ll never meet the sports car driving maniac. He’ll remain a stranger. So there won’t be mutual discussion, much less a mutual resolution. Instead, you’ll have to solve the conflict on your own. How do you solve this kind of conflict? By letting it go. No matter what a stranger does to you on the road, let go of your road rage and move on. Comment here.
For more information on conflict check out the issues section on our resources page or contact us. You can also call our toll-free Trucker Prayer Line at 1-877-797-PRAY (7729). We’re here for you.
Tags: blog,archive,conflict
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